Vivacious Living

Dating After Divorce |

Whether you chose to get divorced or your now ex-spouse made the choice for you. You are now here. Single, after having been married for years. What comes next? Many launch right into the dating world, wanting to find a new partner. Others take time to find themselves again and regain their mental and physical and emotional health. Others may want to date, but are mystified by the plethora of online dating sites and apps and overwhelmed by the thought of creating an online profile. What ever happened to meeting people in real life? It’s a whole new world.

So many questions. So much to deal with. And, as always, there is no one answer that works for everyone. Should you begin to date right away? Should you wait? How do you meet new people? That all depends on you.

For some people, it behooves them to be in a new relationship, whether or not that is the relationship they will ultimately end up in, they get support and love from someone as they recover. Others will choose to be alone, to heal, to work on themselves. Either way, the choice is personal. What is your choice?

Once you choose to move forward, to create an amazing partnership that will last, what can you do? The first step is to be really clear about what you DO want. Note that I did not say you need to be clear about what you don’t want. The Universe works in interesting ways. When you are busy thinking about what you don’t want, the universe is busy ignoring the “nots” and sending those people your way. You must become clear and focused about what you do want in your life. (Believe me, I learned this the hard way…).

So get clear. What do you want your next relationship to look like? What do you do on  daily basis? How do you interact? Dream big here. And then and only then are you able to even start to determine what qualities you want to look for in a potential mate.

If you are interested in participating in a relationship vision workshop where you get REALLY clear what you want in your next relationship, and who it is you are looking for, email me: I am planning a Sunday in March or April so let me know what day works best for you.